I am sure underneath every gal's heart, there is always a dream of a perfect wedding...
And that goes the same for me too... I too have a dream of my perfect wedding... the one and only day I become a beautiful swan (from an ugly duckling), put on my beautiful long wedding gown, hold the hands of my loved one, walk down an aisle covered with rose petals, accepting the best wishes from frenz and relatives.. with the mixed feeling of excitement, happiness, sweetness all shown with a big smile on my face.... before embarking on a long romantic relaxing holiday where I can lay in the hands of my loved one, tell him how much I love him, how glad I am to spend forever with him and enjoy some sweet romantic time together enclosed in a world of our own...
After all, this is the one and only day you get to enjoy the luxury of getting married... noone get to enjoy that every 5 mins, every day, every week or every year.. (unless you are planning to get married many many times in your life). And the best of all, everything you do on this day can only be done once.... u cant wear a wedding gown on some other day to the market, you cant walk down an aisle covered with rose petals everyday (unless perhaps you go to a nice spa resort for a holiday but still you cant do that everyday).. the point is it is the one and only day for every gal.. and for that, they want to have the chance to do it.. and they want everything to be perfect!
It is not about boasting to people that you are getting married... or announcing to the entire world that you are getting married.. true enough it is a committment between two persons and their families and doesnt neccessary have to involve many many other people... but if you are not going to do any of the above, you will never have the chance to do it again right??
I just dunno... should I do it or not?? Should I stick to my perfect wedding dream or at least have something similiar.. or should I just have it as a small personal event attached with my own memories.. but I am getting married right..? Shouldnt it be a elaborate and happy event.. where everyone comes together and be happy for you?? is that boasting?? aiyoh... the bad thing about me is I always think alot and thus I get myself to a crossroad where I start confusing myself and getting myself all worked out in a dilemna.. it is all the questions of "should I or should I not".
On one hand, I really dun want to have a long entertainment list of guests.... but on another hand, I dun wan to invite a few and miss out the rest.... so I might as well dun invite at all right?? And if a marriage is between two persons for the rest of our life.. I rather spend the money on getting new furniture for a new bedroom, a perfect honeymoon for both of us rather than just spending it all on a beautiful beachfront ceremony at Rasa Sentosa inviting lots of guests right??
I mean if you think about it... other than getting well wishes from your guests and the thoughts of collecting angbaos that might not be as big as you thought it is, there are really no big advantages of having a lunch / dinner at all... it will be over within half a day and you will have close to 5k gone on the beautiful venue (which you and your partner will have no time to properly admire and examine every inch of it becoz you will be so busy entertaining your guests..), the food (which you or your partner have no time to eat or even touch) and the decors such as the flowers (which you cant bring home and will most likely wither or turn brown by another half of the day).... maybe it is right to say that the only point of getting such an expensive nice venue is to brag to your frenz and relatives to say "look, i am getting married.. and see how happy i am coz i got the money to spend on this nice venue and good food for all of you guys.. and thank you all for coming to bask in my happiness..." and maybe 3 mths later you get a divorce becoz even though the perfect wedding works out, the marriage unfortunely wasnt as perfect as what was shown.....
Yeh.. so what if the perfect wedding works out... everything might seem perfect on that one and only day... two happy couple basking in happiness and the moment they get home, they started agruing about the angbaos they got, the different way they squeeze their toothpaste and the bad toilet habits of not flushing after use... ultimately even with the perfect wedding in place, the marriage might not work out to be that perfect at all.... so what's the point of getting a perfect wedding when you cant even make the marriage between the very two persons getting married works.. it is just like what's the point of giving flowers to your gf on Valentine Day when the rest of the day you are beating the shit out of her....
