I havent even said anything officially abt getting married yet..
All I did was to write some dreamy blog posts about my perfect wedding, the venue etc etc and my future "Mr Right".. yes I do understand it might lead to certain thoughts or misperceptions that I am getting married soon or at least preparing to get married.. but but... we are just in the stage of discussion.. and nothing has been confirmed yet...
Suddenly frenz are emailing me or msning me "Congrats... heard you are getting married..." hmmmm in the first place I didnt know that much people know my blog or even bother to read it... but anyway the impt thing is... everyone has the common motive of "so when and where is your wedding.. must invite us hor...".. wah piangz... this is making it very hard man.. if people already opened their mouth to ask.. if I am going to strike them off the list of invited guests.. a bit pai seh right..? But then if I am going to invite everyone who need or have or wan to be invited, I might have to hold my wedding at the kopitiam or declare bankrupt right after man.... the list just keep on adding nonstop.....
So ppl... should you be reading this post... first I am not having a wedding so soon... second I do not have that much budget to hold a lavish wedding for 300 - 600 people.... third if you can see from my previous post my perfect wedding venue only hold 30 people... sooooooo i dun have to say anything more right???
Sunday, March 25, 2007
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Proposal or not??
What women really want for a marriage proposal?
Some like it grand and famous... like proposing over the big screen in the movie theatre or during National Parade.. perhaps even kneeling down in the middle of busy Orchard Road or some crowded restaurant.... where everyone around will go "wooo... wow.... ohhh.. so sweet.... " and clapped for you...
I dun like any of the above that I have just mentioned... try doing that and I make sure I wouldnt speak to you for at least a day....
Actually isnt a marriage proposal supposed to be the moment when two persons decide to enter into a ever-lasting promise to share their life with each other down the road..?? Thus it should just involve the very two persons and not many many ppl right..? What are you trying to prove... that your future husband really love you??
However it doesnt mean that a simple question of "Would You Marry Me" can do the trick.. after all we are talking about a marriage for life right?
Then.. what must be added on top of that question then??
It is true that I do not think that a proposal ring is neccessary.. after all you would have to get a engagement ring for solemnization.. then what's the extra proposal ring for..??
But still.. that doesnt mean that I will get myself "married off" at the pop of that question either... it cant be that simple as to a simple question of "Would You Marry Me" blurted out suddenly in the moment of time right?? Like what if any strangers on the streets come up to me with a "Would You Marry Me" question, do I have to consider about marrying him then.. after all he just asked the very same question all gers wanna to hear... I believe all gers are surely looking for something more than just the question... sincerity comes with more feelings shown from the bottom of the heart... doesnt mean flowers and a candlelight dinner is neccessary... sometimes it can be very simple.. but yet it touches the ger in the bottom of the heart...
But in any case.. is it really neccessary for a proposal after a couple has decided to committ to each other for life??
Hmmm... women are forever confusing and complicated creatures...
Some like it grand and famous... like proposing over the big screen in the movie theatre or during National Parade.. perhaps even kneeling down in the middle of busy Orchard Road or some crowded restaurant.... where everyone around will go "wooo... wow.... ohhh.. so sweet.... " and clapped for you...
I dun like any of the above that I have just mentioned... try doing that and I make sure I wouldnt speak to you for at least a day....
Actually isnt a marriage proposal supposed to be the moment when two persons decide to enter into a ever-lasting promise to share their life with each other down the road..?? Thus it should just involve the very two persons and not many many ppl right..? What are you trying to prove... that your future husband really love you??
However it doesnt mean that a simple question of "Would You Marry Me" can do the trick.. after all we are talking about a marriage for life right?
Then.. what must be added on top of that question then??
It is true that I do not think that a proposal ring is neccessary.. after all you would have to get a engagement ring for solemnization.. then what's the extra proposal ring for..??
But still.. that doesnt mean that I will get myself "married off" at the pop of that question either... it cant be that simple as to a simple question of "Would You Marry Me" blurted out suddenly in the moment of time right?? Like what if any strangers on the streets come up to me with a "Would You Marry Me" question, do I have to consider about marrying him then.. after all he just asked the very same question all gers wanna to hear... I believe all gers are surely looking for something more than just the question... sincerity comes with more feelings shown from the bottom of the heart... doesnt mean flowers and a candlelight dinner is neccessary... sometimes it can be very simple.. but yet it touches the ger in the bottom of the heart...
But in any case.. is it really neccessary for a proposal after a couple has decided to committ to each other for life??
Hmmm... women are forever confusing and complicated creatures...
Saturday, March 17, 2007
Perfect Wedding Venue...
I think I finally found the perfect outdoor venue... simple yet beautiful.... one down side to the beauty loh... it can only accommodate 30 persons... wahahah... how?? I think I might have to leave out some frenz then.. cant possibly invite everyone including relatives right?? But anyway nothing will be happening so soon... so there is really no hurry to fix such things yet... just a consideration at the moment...
Saturday, March 03, 2007
Charity Mindset...
Today when I am at Causeway Point, before and after my driving lesson... I was surrounded and "attacked" by students and volunteers everywhere I go... they were doing a flag day charity donation drive for the Salvation Army. Every weekend.. Causeway Point is always very happening.. with donation drives and insurance people waging a war with the huge crowd of shoppers and residents....
Frankly speaking.. it is not that I do not have any sympathy for the people that Salvation Army is helping.... you cant say I am totally hard hearted for not giving a cent to those people..I seriously sympathise those people that Salvation Army is helping (whoever they are) and those volunteers and students who work hard to do their part... after all during my school days, I am also one of those being forced to go out with a can and approach people for donations in order to complete my 40hours of social work... but after the NKF incident.. I totally dun trust these donations anymore... and I am sure I am not the only one.... you dunno where the money is going through.. how many people really receive help from ur donation... and how much of the money actually went into the pockets of the management and staffs working in there.. and the worst of all, there are bad people out there who fake donation drives to earn easy money... wah piangz... making it so bad until now you will have to check if those students and volunteers hold on to a pass or something to prove that they are really representing the organisation they are doing a donation drive for... tell me.. who will really go and check??
I went down from the MRT station level to the bus interchange level and there was this familiar face... the blind uncle who plays very good music.... and I took out my wallet and dropped in all the coins I have....at least this is somewhere where I think it is worth donating to... uncle is blind... but he works hard to earn a living despite his disabilities.... he is not like one of those useless people who sit by the streets, looks perfectly ok except for torn patches on their clothes here and there, begging for a living.. hoping for some easy money....why cant you look for a job..??? if you dunno any language, go be a sweeper.. you have legs to walk and hands to use... why?? because by begging, they really earn easy money .. last time before the ugly NKF incident, it came out in the newspapers that those "beggers" can at least earn 50 - 100bucks a day... that is even better than what I am earning loh...
I remembered I saw before a brother and a sister in the news... they speak english but somehow they lived in the void deck of a block with no proper housing... both of them are perfectly healthy and normal with no major illness... except of coz the clothes that they worn are dirty and torn... they said they tried to look for a job.. but becoz of their age nobody wanted to hire them....and when they went up on the news, they got the help of the statutory board governing their area... I SO TOTALLY LOOK DOWN ON THEM LO... they are the pests of the society.... they can speak english, they can read english newspaper... they are not half as old as those uncles and aunties working in Macdonalds or KFC.. AND THEY SAID NOONE WAN TO HIRE THEM??!!! they just wanna free help, free money from the government without even working a bit for themselves la pls...why would people go and pity them.... THINK!!!! they can easily find a job.. just a matter of how much the pay is and the working hours... i am sure Macdonalds, Delifrance and KFC will welcome them to join their labour force... and I am sure if they are willing to work hard, with the money... they are able to pass a living.. maybe not as good as anyone else.. but at least you will survive.... the auntie in my block is 80+ and still working as a sweeper.... my ex staff in Delifrance is 60+ and still working as a cleaner.... lots of places are hiring lo....
Now the government is emphasizing more benefits for the lower income group... after some sad news of people committing sucide blu blu blu... For people who are really sick and bed ridden, they cant work.. i can understand.... there are families out there where the husband take home a pathetic $1000 a mth and have to support two children with low mentality and a wife who is sick and have to go in and out of hospital mthly.. those families really need help... no fight about that... but how can the government gurantee that those people like the brother and sister who can work but dun wan to work.. do not also enjoy the benefits of thw lower income group..?? Based on housing requirements, based on salary requirements, they matched every single criteria of the lower income group but that is just becoz they are lazy......
After seeing all of the above... I think I am now kinda of immune to donation drives... Ren Chi Charity Drive is coming up again this year... you see the same stunts, the same tricks.... after so many years of people complaining and giving feedbacks on how bad the show is... they never stop... in the end I dun even know I am donating becoz I support my idol in the show, becoz I think the stunt is really worth it after so much hard work and effort that the performer put in or becoz I really pity the people in Ren Chi Hospital... after all the show is done up for the poor people in Ren Chi Hospital.. not for anything else... why not forego all the stunts, forego all the tricks and show us two hours of the true life encounters of the people..... let us cry for their sad encounters and their misfortunes... and I am sure people like me will volunteer to donate... duun need for the performers... dun need for the dangerous stunts.. dun need for the dance and singing performances... just pure feelings from the heart....
Frankly speaking.. it is not that I do not have any sympathy for the people that Salvation Army is helping.... you cant say I am totally hard hearted for not giving a cent to those people..I seriously sympathise those people that Salvation Army is helping (whoever they are) and those volunteers and students who work hard to do their part... after all during my school days, I am also one of those being forced to go out with a can and approach people for donations in order to complete my 40hours of social work... but after the NKF incident.. I totally dun trust these donations anymore... and I am sure I am not the only one.... you dunno where the money is going through.. how many people really receive help from ur donation... and how much of the money actually went into the pockets of the management and staffs working in there.. and the worst of all, there are bad people out there who fake donation drives to earn easy money... wah piangz... making it so bad until now you will have to check if those students and volunteers hold on to a pass or something to prove that they are really representing the organisation they are doing a donation drive for... tell me.. who will really go and check??
I went down from the MRT station level to the bus interchange level and there was this familiar face... the blind uncle who plays very good music.... and I took out my wallet and dropped in all the coins I have....at least this is somewhere where I think it is worth donating to... uncle is blind... but he works hard to earn a living despite his disabilities.... he is not like one of those useless people who sit by the streets, looks perfectly ok except for torn patches on their clothes here and there, begging for a living.. hoping for some easy money....why cant you look for a job..??? if you dunno any language, go be a sweeper.. you have legs to walk and hands to use... why?? because by begging, they really earn easy money .. last time before the ugly NKF incident, it came out in the newspapers that those "beggers" can at least earn 50 - 100bucks a day... that is even better than what I am earning loh...
I remembered I saw before a brother and a sister in the news... they speak english but somehow they lived in the void deck of a block with no proper housing... both of them are perfectly healthy and normal with no major illness... except of coz the clothes that they worn are dirty and torn... they said they tried to look for a job.. but becoz of their age nobody wanted to hire them....and when they went up on the news, they got the help of the statutory board governing their area... I SO TOTALLY LOOK DOWN ON THEM LO... they are the pests of the society.... they can speak english, they can read english newspaper... they are not half as old as those uncles and aunties working in Macdonalds or KFC.. AND THEY SAID NOONE WAN TO HIRE THEM??!!! they just wanna free help, free money from the government without even working a bit for themselves la pls...why would people go and pity them.... THINK!!!! they can easily find a job.. just a matter of how much the pay is and the working hours... i am sure Macdonalds, Delifrance and KFC will welcome them to join their labour force... and I am sure if they are willing to work hard, with the money... they are able to pass a living.. maybe not as good as anyone else.. but at least you will survive.... the auntie in my block is 80+ and still working as a sweeper.... my ex staff in Delifrance is 60+ and still working as a cleaner.... lots of places are hiring lo....
Now the government is emphasizing more benefits for the lower income group... after some sad news of people committing sucide blu blu blu... For people who are really sick and bed ridden, they cant work.. i can understand.... there are families out there where the husband take home a pathetic $1000 a mth and have to support two children with low mentality and a wife who is sick and have to go in and out of hospital mthly.. those families really need help... no fight about that... but how can the government gurantee that those people like the brother and sister who can work but dun wan to work.. do not also enjoy the benefits of thw lower income group..?? Based on housing requirements, based on salary requirements, they matched every single criteria of the lower income group but that is just becoz they are lazy......
After seeing all of the above... I think I am now kinda of immune to donation drives... Ren Chi Charity Drive is coming up again this year... you see the same stunts, the same tricks.... after so many years of people complaining and giving feedbacks on how bad the show is... they never stop... in the end I dun even know I am donating becoz I support my idol in the show, becoz I think the stunt is really worth it after so much hard work and effort that the performer put in or becoz I really pity the people in Ren Chi Hospital... after all the show is done up for the poor people in Ren Chi Hospital.. not for anything else... why not forego all the stunts, forego all the tricks and show us two hours of the true life encounters of the people..... let us cry for their sad encounters and their misfortunes... and I am sure people like me will volunteer to donate... duun need for the performers... dun need for the dangerous stunts.. dun need for the dance and singing performances... just pure feelings from the heart....
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