Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Mum & Working Mum
It's really difficult to be a mum and working mum...
That's why so many people nowadays rather be concentrating solely on their careers and chose not to have babies.. or have a baby, quit their job and be a full time housewife...
Reason is very simple.. because you can never be in between.. especially not at the beginning stages of your baby's life..
Juggling between work and family (parents, parents in law, baby, husband) plus not enough slp every night is enough to tire you out...
Government are giving out more baby bonus.. more maternity leaves... childcare leave... to try and encounter more babies... at the same time they are also encountering more females to join the working force... is it enough??? NO! The longer maternity leaves had the mum worrying that she might not lose her job now but she will lose her job when she get back... sure you can sue your employee but the end result will always be "sorry but your job is gone.. look for another one"... the money given is not enough to last till one year.... you have a few good companies with very good benefits for mums such as flexible working hours, work from home etc but can I ask.. how many mums actually get to work in such a firm... less than 50%... most worked for SMES... who ultimately cares about their day to day commercial operations than family.. ultimately the company need to survive.. bottom line period.. who cares about you wanting to spend more time with your family..
Is a balance between all affecting factors in my life achievable at all?
That's why so many people nowadays rather be concentrating solely on their careers and chose not to have babies.. or have a baby, quit their job and be a full time housewife...
Reason is very simple.. because you can never be in between.. especially not at the beginning stages of your baby's life..
Juggling between work and family (parents, parents in law, baby, husband) plus not enough slp every night is enough to tire you out...
Government are giving out more baby bonus.. more maternity leaves... childcare leave... to try and encounter more babies... at the same time they are also encountering more females to join the working force... is it enough??? NO! The longer maternity leaves had the mum worrying that she might not lose her job now but she will lose her job when she get back... sure you can sue your employee but the end result will always be "sorry but your job is gone.. look for another one"... the money given is not enough to last till one year.... you have a few good companies with very good benefits for mums such as flexible working hours, work from home etc but can I ask.. how many mums actually get to work in such a firm... less than 50%... most worked for SMES... who ultimately cares about their day to day commercial operations than family.. ultimately the company need to survive.. bottom line period.. who cares about you wanting to spend more time with your family..
Is a balance between all affecting factors in my life achievable at all?
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Updates...
Ok I havent been updating for quite some time..
I have a couple of videos I wanted to upload but I am just too lazy to transfer them from my mobile to my com.. and the videos are too big to upload straight to blogger from my mobile.. so those got to wait..
Gerald has reached a couple of new milestones... he can now hold his own water bottle.. (but not milk bottle because that's too big for him)...he can now roll over by himself (and he love doing that..).. he can now "walk" on the floor in his walker.. (previously we put a wooden board underneath to use as a floorboard as his feet cannot reach the ground then).... he cannot really walk properly.. but can move his own walker to and fro and backward by pushing his body to the side and back... he is now starting to observe stuffs and is very curious about the world around him.. and by doing so.. refuses to drink his milk properly.. we will have to shove and fight our way to get him to finish his bottle... if not he will just drink till he's ok (not full yet because less than 3 hours later he will start crying for milk again and the cycle repeat itself), push the teat out and refuses to drink anymore..and he is still drinking 120ml of milk.. (seem a little too little for me for a 5 mths old baby)..and he can go 4 - 6 hours withoout milk whenever we bring him out.. (woo hoo save milk powder but poor Gerald seem to have lose some weight because of that).. but when we are outside.. no matter how we push the milk bottle to him.. he just refused to drink it... what can we do? Because he is so curious about the world outside.. he love to go out..he love to sit car... which is good because I want him to see stuffs, mix around with crowds so he is not afraid of noises and strangers..
The previous Sunday 13th Sept, we took Gerald back to Batu Pahat, my mum hometown to visit my grandma and pray to my late grandpa... luckily he slept most of his way there.. however as he now recognises familiar faces.. he will cry when he see a unfamiliar face.. so he was crying whenever he see my mum, my dad and my grandma face and I have to carry him most of the times.. Quite sad that he cannot recognise my parents face because they are his grandparents too.. I tried to bring him over once every week but dun think that's enough... but he is just a baby.. so I hope when he grow older, he will know my parents as his grandparents too..
Got to prepare to go to work now.. update again..
I have a couple of videos I wanted to upload but I am just too lazy to transfer them from my mobile to my com.. and the videos are too big to upload straight to blogger from my mobile.. so those got to wait..
Gerald has reached a couple of new milestones... he can now hold his own water bottle.. (but not milk bottle because that's too big for him)...he can now roll over by himself (and he love doing that..).. he can now "walk" on the floor in his walker.. (previously we put a wooden board underneath to use as a floorboard as his feet cannot reach the ground then).... he cannot really walk properly.. but can move his own walker to and fro and backward by pushing his body to the side and back... he is now starting to observe stuffs and is very curious about the world around him.. and by doing so.. refuses to drink his milk properly.. we will have to shove and fight our way to get him to finish his bottle... if not he will just drink till he's ok (not full yet because less than 3 hours later he will start crying for milk again and the cycle repeat itself), push the teat out and refuses to drink anymore..and he is still drinking 120ml of milk.. (seem a little too little for me for a 5 mths old baby)..and he can go 4 - 6 hours withoout milk whenever we bring him out.. (woo hoo save milk powder but poor Gerald seem to have lose some weight because of that).. but when we are outside.. no matter how we push the milk bottle to him.. he just refused to drink it... what can we do? Because he is so curious about the world outside.. he love to go out..he love to sit car... which is good because I want him to see stuffs, mix around with crowds so he is not afraid of noises and strangers..
The previous Sunday 13th Sept, we took Gerald back to Batu Pahat, my mum hometown to visit my grandma and pray to my late grandpa... luckily he slept most of his way there.. however as he now recognises familiar faces.. he will cry when he see a unfamiliar face.. so he was crying whenever he see my mum, my dad and my grandma face and I have to carry him most of the times.. Quite sad that he cannot recognise my parents face because they are his grandparents too.. I tried to bring him over once every week but dun think that's enough... but he is just a baby.. so I hope when he grow older, he will know my parents as his grandparents too..
Got to prepare to go to work now.. update again..
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Sunday, September 06, 2009
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
Nikoi Island
Me and hubby are both thinking of going for a holiday during the New year period.. 1st Jan to 3rd Jan since it is a Fri - Sun long weekend.. and Nikoi Island is one of the destinations that we have been looking at for a long time and always didn't have a chance to go..
The previous time we checked availability one month ahead and it was fully booked.. can't remember when was that for.. and I was advised to book 3 months ahead... and now I am checking availability 4 months ahead and still it is fully booked!! ARGHHH...
This is soo unbelievable.. If you are interested to fight with me... visit www.nikoi.com
The previous time we checked availability one month ahead and it was fully booked.. can't remember when was that for.. and I was advised to book 3 months ahead... and now I am checking availability 4 months ahead and still it is fully booked!! ARGHHH...
This is soo unbelievable.. If you are interested to fight with me... visit www.nikoi.com
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
Saturday, August 29, 2009
4th month
Friday, August 28, 2009
Bumbo
I must get a baby bumbo seat for Gerald! How come I dunno anything about it till today? Was speaking to a colleague about when his baby can sit by herself when he mentioned that they let her sit in a bumbo at 4 months. And i am like what bumbo. Then i searched and realised it is such a amazing thing! Who wan the high chair, Gerald cant even sit properly in it without being all strapped up. He need a bumbo! Ok i am overly excited and amazed at my new discovery, so much so that i wish i can pop into Kiddy Palace now and buy one now so Gerald can sit in it tonight. Although i am not sure if Gerald legs will fit but who cares! Think about it later! I tried to find a second hand bumbo but it is all sold out! High demand man. Damn
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Long update...
Ok.. it's been a very long time... ever since my last post in May... many of the people reading this blog will most probably think that I have already closed down my blog.. or practically chose to ignore it.. but in fact I didn't... hahaha
This blog is mainly about me and my hubby... but ever since May, there has been a new center in our life... ever since the birth of our baby Gerald, he has become the new center stage, all attention are focused on him and both our lifes surround him and him only... leaving not so much time for myself or ourselves... but of course we will try and spend as much couple time together as we can...
Gerald has a blog at chrisrickandbabygerald.blogspot.com. As mentioned previously, he is the center stage so of course the blog is very updated.. hahaha.. If I have some time to spare, I will most probably be updating his blog rather than mine! Hah.. it has to be a detailed record of Gerald growing up so I am pretty determined to get the site running.. hahaha.. should you not see any posts on this blog, try Gerald..
This blog is mainly about me and my hubby... but ever since May, there has been a new center in our life... ever since the birth of our baby Gerald, he has become the new center stage, all attention are focused on him and both our lifes surround him and him only... leaving not so much time for myself or ourselves... but of course we will try and spend as much couple time together as we can...
Gerald has a blog at chrisrickandbabygerald.blogspot.com. As mentioned previously, he is the center stage so of course the blog is very updated.. hahaha.. If I have some time to spare, I will most probably be updating his blog rather than mine! Hah.. it has to be a detailed record of Gerald growing up so I am pretty determined to get the site running.. hahaha.. should you not see any posts on this blog, try Gerald..
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Gerald playground!
My house is slowly turning into a playground for Gerald.. look at the many things that he has till now! And it is still accumulating..
First row (from the left to the right): Web chair where he often has his afternoon naps as it is airy, his old rocking chair where he will sit and play with his 3 little white teddy bears, his high chair to be used around the dining table when he can sit, for now it is just for him to sit for fun and his walker where he will learn how to walk, for now it is just for him to sit for fun too. Second row (from the left to the right): his stroller, his cot, his play gym and his rocking horse.
One corner of the living room has turned into his playground filled with all of his things! He is taking over the living room
First row (from the left to the right): Web chair where he often has his afternoon naps as it is airy, his old rocking chair where he will sit and play with his 3 little white teddy bears, his high chair to be used around the dining table when he can sit, for now it is just for him to sit for fun and his walker where he will learn how to walk, for now it is just for him to sit for fun too. Second row (from the left to the right): his stroller, his cot, his play gym and his rocking horse.
One corner of the living room has turned into his playground filled with all of his things! He is taking over the living room
Self conscious
Now on the train on my way to work. There is a very pretty gal with a very handsome young man sitting in front of me. Then met a very old frenz that i know since sec school but have lost contact ever since. He could hardly recognise me.
Suddenly felt very self conscious of myself. My short messy and grassy hair, my pale and dull face with no make up and no natural glow or brightness, my out of shape figure with a spare tyre around my tummy. Suddenly feel so ugly.
Suddenly felt very self conscious of myself. My short messy and grassy hair, my pale and dull face with no make up and no natural glow or brightness, my out of shape figure with a spare tyre around my tummy. Suddenly feel so ugly.
Monday, August 24, 2009
Baby Brianna
This has nothing to do with Gerald and this will NEVER EVER happen to Gerald.. This is a perfect example of what a unloving mother is.. and that surely can never be me!
How can she possibly treat her baby this way! If she dun want the baby, why didnt she just abort it or have a miscarriage? Why give birth to the baby in the very first place?? I cant say anything for the dad or uncle because they never went through the whole 9 or 10 months of pregnancy but the mum surely did... and still don't feel any love for the baby?? She is such a cute baby!!! Whenever I see Gerald sleeping peacefully I think he is such an angel.. I seriously cried at the last part of the video...
I cannot bear to even think how would the baby feel... the only people that she rely and depend on since the first day of birth actually abused her this way... how sad would she be if she understand what's going on... to be lying by herself..noone to play or chat with her... and whenever she is picked up she is being beaten and abused!! And she is just a innocent baby who have no idea!! Who will smile at you whenever you carried her... how can you possibly do this to your child!!! Wun your heart ache when you see the bruises all over your baby and realised it is all your doing.. and your baby is still smiling at you because she know you are her mother??!!
The parents should be hanged! Seriously pissed off
How can she possibly treat her baby this way! If she dun want the baby, why didnt she just abort it or have a miscarriage? Why give birth to the baby in the very first place?? I cant say anything for the dad or uncle because they never went through the whole 9 or 10 months of pregnancy but the mum surely did... and still don't feel any love for the baby?? She is such a cute baby!!! Whenever I see Gerald sleeping peacefully I think he is such an angel.. I seriously cried at the last part of the video...
I cannot bear to even think how would the baby feel... the only people that she rely and depend on since the first day of birth actually abused her this way... how sad would she be if she understand what's going on... to be lying by herself..noone to play or chat with her... and whenever she is picked up she is being beaten and abused!! And she is just a innocent baby who have no idea!! Who will smile at you whenever you carried her... how can you possibly do this to your child!!! Wun your heart ache when you see the bruises all over your baby and realised it is all your doing.. and your baby is still smiling at you because she know you are her mother??!!
The parents should be hanged! Seriously pissed off
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Beach outing
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Updates
Havent updated for quite some time. Quite busy working and the remaining time are all spent with Gerald..
He recovered from his fever last Friday evening.. thank god.. he has his last doasage of his medicine on Friday afternoon when his temperature shot to 38.5 degrees and I was just about to bring him to the doctor when I thought maybe I should let him have his medicine and monitor to see if things get better and indeed it did.. thank god...
For the next few days he wasn't drinking much milk, maybe because he has no appetite after 3 days of illness but now he is back on track.. draining every single bottle of 120ml of milk.. woohoo! My Gerald is back!!!
Found out today that my lady boss daughter who is born about 3 weeks earlier than Gerald didnt have a fever when she had her polio injection.. so good.. although I am sure all kids will fall ill at some stages.. heard from my mother in law that they will also have fever when they are teething and they will be super uncomfortable and fussy during that period too.. hmmmm
Gerald now weigh 7kg.. he is a heavy boy! But he is not overweight mind you... he is perfectly healthy and fine... just right for a boy.. woohoo... and he is now 61cm... wow how much he has grown!
He is now trying to sit up straight even though his back/body is still a little weak and couldnt really support his head right now.. But he love it... and he always want us to carry him in a upright sitting position.. no longer lying on the arms.. and he is as talkative as usual.. hahaha...
Pictures coming soon..
He recovered from his fever last Friday evening.. thank god.. he has his last doasage of his medicine on Friday afternoon when his temperature shot to 38.5 degrees and I was just about to bring him to the doctor when I thought maybe I should let him have his medicine and monitor to see if things get better and indeed it did.. thank god...
For the next few days he wasn't drinking much milk, maybe because he has no appetite after 3 days of illness but now he is back on track.. draining every single bottle of 120ml of milk.. woohoo! My Gerald is back!!!
Found out today that my lady boss daughter who is born about 3 weeks earlier than Gerald didnt have a fever when she had her polio injection.. so good.. although I am sure all kids will fall ill at some stages.. heard from my mother in law that they will also have fever when they are teething and they will be super uncomfortable and fussy during that period too.. hmmmm
Gerald now weigh 7kg.. he is a heavy boy! But he is not overweight mind you... he is perfectly healthy and fine... just right for a boy.. woohoo... and he is now 61cm... wow how much he has grown!
He is now trying to sit up straight even though his back/body is still a little weak and couldnt really support his head right now.. But he love it... and he always want us to carry him in a upright sitting position.. no longer lying on the arms.. and he is as talkative as usual.. hahaha...
Pictures coming soon..
Wednesday, August 05, 2009
3 mths medical check up
Gerald is having fever!!! At one point the thermometer had a reading of 38.1 degrees. I got a shock of my life seriously.. he was okay after the polio injection in the morning.. came back drank his milk played and slept as per normal.. then when I woke him for his milk at 2.30pm, he drank only half.. and then he fell back to sleep.. and his temperature was still fine..
Later at 5.30pm he only drank 30ml out of 120ml.. and he seem to be moaning in pain.. and that really got me worried... and despite me cuddling on to him, he was still crying non stop.. and his temperature read 37.9 degrees and I panicked. I took out the cooling patch that I brought for him and sticked that onto his forehead to help him relieve the fever.. it didnt help much so I gave him medicine and lots of water.. he didnt want milk...3 attempts in gaving him milk and he only drank 20 or 30ml.. and he still look very uncomfortable.. pain my heart to see him like that.. my little boy is uncomfortable.. poor Gerald..
Hopefully he will be fine tomorrow...
Later at 5.30pm he only drank 30ml out of 120ml.. and he seem to be moaning in pain.. and that really got me worried... and despite me cuddling on to him, he was still crying non stop.. and his temperature read 37.9 degrees and I panicked. I took out the cooling patch that I brought for him and sticked that onto his forehead to help him relieve the fever.. it didnt help much so I gave him medicine and lots of water.. he didnt want milk...3 attempts in gaving him milk and he only drank 20 or 30ml.. and he still look very uncomfortable.. pain my heart to see him like that.. my little boy is uncomfortable.. poor Gerald..
Hopefully he will be fine tomorrow...
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